![]() ![]() (Don’t even get me started on what cheating can do to family finances, job security, and other key areas of one’s life, all of which I am now well aware of.) Also, as I know first hand, extra marital sex is unsafe, exposing people to potential health risk, if not affecting their mental well-being. Keep reminding them you are only telling them the truth because you honestly care and respect them as sorry as you feel having to tell them, you would feel extremely sorry if their future was compromised by allowing the deception to continue. If you know the person being cheated on well enough, you should tell them in person, providing the details you know. There is an etiquette in these situations that I recommend. Someone stepping out of their comfort zone, providing some key facts would have been all I needed to confirm what I was hesitate to face up to. But only up to a point.) Nothing was worth the years that I allowed him to convince me I was crazy for questioning him while I raised our children, washed his underwear, and sent his mother letters praising him for being such a wonderful husband and father. (My ex worked 300 miles away, so it was denial by distance in my case. But it’s only after you have the information that you can stop whoever is doing it to you and what you are doing to yourself as a consequence. The very act of denial is self-victimization. As far as I’m concerned, everyone who chose not to tell me walked away from the scene of a wreck and that wreck, unbeknownst to me, was my life. It would have been a gift, jolting me out of the state of denial that I’d apparently taken up residence in almost from the day I married. Family members actually knew and could have told me, which is especially sad. Any one of them could have used facts and sent me an anonymous note or made a call. Dozens of people had first-hand knowledge for yearsabout my ex’s chronic infidelity. That might mean taking up an exercise class to get the revenge body you’ve always wanted, or it might mean getting a new job and moving across the country so you don’t have to worry about running into them anymore.A thankless position to be in, but I wish someone had told me. T he best way to get over a cheater is by showing them that your life is way better now than it ever was when you were together. ![]() Luckily, there are ways to fix yourself after being cheated on. But even if you do all or none of these, it's still hard to express exactly how it feels to be cheated on. Some seek out the comfort of their friends, look for revenge, or find a rebound. It's important to do this because cheating can affect someone greatly. Everyone copes with being cheated on in their own unique way. ![]() ![]() Put your foot down and demand that they must be willing to make a continual effort in words and deeds to prove they will never cross that line again. That way, they can let you know they comprehend the enormity of what they did. Some may even deny their actions and act like that's explanation enough.īut what do you even say to a cheater? First, express your hurt, anger, and rage. After being confronted, cheaters will sometimes apologize, but saying sorry after the fact just makes it seem like it was an accident and won't happen ever again. ![]()
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